How to have hypnotic conversations that won’t sound like you’re a therapist or a weirdo

There’s lots of talk about this thing called ‘conversational hypnosis’ but not everyone is talking about the same thing.

  • some are talking about a style of therapeutic hypnosis pioneered by a doctor called Milton Erickson
  • some are talking about ‘influential language patterns’
  • some are talking about hypnotising others in an everyday setting for influence
  • Some are talking about super stealth black-ops ninja Jedi mind control

Conversational hypnosis, to me, means having an influence conversation using language and frameworks from hypnosis.

This isn’t the Erickson approach – if you just go and listen to Erickson doing hypnosis it’s not very conversational at all. His work is only called ‘conversational hypnosis’ because it’s a lot more conversational than “10…relaxing deeply…9…closing your eyes now…8…sinking down in your chair…7…giving me your wallet…” Well, you get the idea.

You see, the first mistake most people make when they want to do conversational hypnosis – they learn hypnosis. Then they try and make hypnosis sound like a conversation. Then we all get to experience the great train wreck that is their new ‘conversational’ style.

Let me give you a specific example. There’s a thing in regular hypnosis called ‘pace and lead’. A ‘lead’ is a suggestion of some type. A ‘pace’ is a statement that the hypnotic subject can easily verify right-then-and-there. A classic pace would be “you can hear the sound of my voice”. Of course they can. And that’s okay in a clinical setting, but in a conversation? Are you kidding me?

That approach falls far short because there are basically three types of ‘pacing statement’:

  1. a good mind-read (this is an insightful acknowledgement of the subject’s experience) for example “you’re a little nervous, aren’t you?”
  2. environmental pace (stating a common experience in the environment) for example, “it’s a bit cold today”
  3. Captain Obvious Strikes! (a boringly obvious environmental pace) for example “you can hear the sound of my voice”

Most people slavishly follow the pace and lead pattern when trying to do conversational hypnosis without knowing why you might want to pace and lead in the first place. And they try to do it with boringly obvious statements:

“you’re listening to me, and I’m about to say something, and you’re wondering what it will be…” It sounds like Forrest Gump!

I went with a non-hypnotist friend to a presentation where the speaker was trying to pace and lead like this. My friend thought the speaker sounded like he was on heavy medication.

Pace-and-lead is all about building trust and testing the responsiveness of the hypnotic feedback loop (more about this in the fourth video – hypnosis in a nutshell).

My question is this: are you more likely to accept a suggestion from someone who is insightful and understands you, or from someone who is boring and shallow?

Clearly, the pace and lead approach will work well enough if you use good mind-reads. This involves a skill that is absent from formal models of hypnosis but is common in conversation: asking people about themselves, listening to the answers and making an effort to understand their point of view.

This is the second mistake – forgetting that hypnosis is an interaction. Formal hypnosis tends to involve lots of talk from the hypnotist and little, if any, from the subject. In a conversation, we share the talking more or less equally.

So if you’re using formal hypnosis models for a conversation and the other person goes off into a long story or veers off on a tangent, you’ll probably think “disaster!”. That’s far from the case, because that is what conversations do. If you do conversational hypnosis a different way, that tangent’s not just useful – it’s a bonus!

Am I talking about nested loops? Multiple embedded metaphor? Lesser-included-deep structures? Leveraging Archetypes? This is the third mistake – high tech hypnosis.

There are so many ‘techniques’ out there and so much structured language – hypnosis – and persuasive language in general – has become really high tech and complicated. There are 1001 tiny things to remember and track. What a juggling act!

Good hypnosis is simple hypnosis. The most effective methods for influence are really simple. And when complicated things break down, they usually need an expert to fix them.

My hypnosis model is really simple and anyone can learn it. It’s based on a single premise:

Don’t take hypnosis and try to make it sound like a conversation. Start with a conversation and make it hypnotic.

That’s it. There are some key elements of hypnosis that can be added to a conversation, but we start with the conversation first. That way, your influence conversation will sound like you’re a normal person and not a therapist or weirdo.

How do I know this? I wrote the book on it. You can learn the specifics of truly conversational hypnosis in my book Hypnotic Conversations: The Secret Structure Behind Everyday Hypnosis.

Or if you want to know more first, watch my next video on the Myth of Secret Hypnotic Language.

Personal Resilience – Mind Rescue Kit

Stressed and overwhelmed? This simple course will help you to take back control of your life.


Mind Rescue Kit is exactly what it sounds like – a practical course that will take you from stressed and overwhelmed to calm, focused and resourceful.

It combines ideas and exercises from Psychology, NLP and Coaching to increase your mental resilience, creating a positive effect for you in your life.

You learn everything you need to know through a series of practical exercises, so you can make a positive difference in your life while you’re still trying it out.

Specifically, you’ll learn:

  • How to take control of your state of mind (and why that’s so important)
  • How to master your internal dialogue (a master-skill)
  • How to make goals like the world’s most successful people do
  • How to recapture your drive and stay motivated
  • What feedback really is – and why you need to get it right

In short, you’ll understand yourself a bit better, so you can get yourself into a more resourceful mindset and have a workable plan for your future.

If that’s what you need, sign up below.

£75 £15 while places last.

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NLP, Mastery and Success

What could your life be like if someone gave you a compass that always points the way to success?


There are ways of thinking about your aims, goals and desires that are different – and far more powerful – than those you currently use. Ways that put more of your life under your control, making it easier to get what you want.

successThere is more to it than determination. There are activities that successful people definitely don’t do, because they know those actions lead only to failure. They know what the actions of success are – and how to repeat those time and again.

Successful people ask better questions about the things they want, because they know how to build a blueprint for success. In fact, if you can’t get the answers, even your most strenuous efforts will fall far short of the results you truly deserve.

When you make a study of success and compare the highest achievers, patterns start to emerge. Patterns in their thinking, behaviour and outlook on life. Patterns that are often profoundly different from the norm.

These people became special by their own efforts. Successful people don’t work harder than others, though they often work hard to get what they want. They’re not necessarily any more intelligent than the average person. Most were not born into wealth or privilege either. What they do have is a set of skills that many people do not even know exists.

In this course, you can learn those skills, modelled from some of the world’s most successful people.

Learn how to:

  • build a blueprint for success with 10 simple questions
  • stay totally focused throughout your master plan
  • use any results – even failure – as material for creating success
  • master your inner success system and make it work for you – even while you sleep!
  • keep your life balanced throughout the process.

Through a series of simple exercises, you will learn how to think, act and react in ways that will move you towards the things you want from life.

These new skills will be your compass, always keeping you on track, so you can have more of the things you want with less of the time and effort.

As you move through the course, you will put it into action in your life and begin to make success part of who you are.

Go here to book your place and access the material straight away.

NLP – Daily Practice and Integration

Too busy to practice your NLP? Build your skills in only 5 minutes each day with this new training program.


You’ve completed your NLP Practitioner training and want to make the most of your new learning.

What do you do next?

Some people take more training or join a local NLP practice group. Some people do nothing.

In my experience, those who make the most of their NLP do so by making it part of their everyday life.

  • I don’t mean doing therapy or changework with friends and family.
  • Nor do I mean becoming an ‘NLP bore’ by talking about NLP constantly.
  • I don’t mean changing your job to ‘live the dream’ of being an NLPer.

Those who have the greatest and most enduring success integrate their NLP learning seamlessly into a variety of normal contexts, improving their daily lives in the process.

That’s why I designed this 8-week integration program – to guide you through that process.

How does it work?

Each week, starting on Day 1, you will receive a concise audio lesson of approximately five minutes duration. The lessons are brief and to the point, so you can easily find time to listen to them before the week’s tasks begin.

Every other day you will receive a brief email outlining that day’s task or exercise. Each task or exercise will help to integrate that week’s learning material into your natural awareness, language and behaviour.

Go here to book your place and access the material straight away.

Creative Solutions – NLP and Creativity

Looking for solutions? Expand your creative skills on this 4 week course and save time, money and effort in the process

Creativity is the most prized ability in business today because new ideas can save you time, money and effort.

creativeDespite its great value, few people know how to become more creative, because many people think that creativity is an inborn skill. They couldn’t be more wrong.

Creativity is something we can all have, whether we realise it or not. It is a skill, an attitude and an outlook – all of which you can learn, perfect and train. For example, why do artistic people go to art college? They’re learning skills that will help them to better express their creativity.

There are two parts of the creative skill:

  • coming up with interesting ideas, new perspectives, or solutions to problems.
  • expressing those ideas in a meaningful and accessible way.

This training course focuses on the first part of creativity, which is arguably the more valuable one. Ask a painter how to paint or ask a writer how to craft a story and they will have plenty of practical advice to share. However, ask them – or any creative person – how they come up with their ideas and they will struggle to give you a practical answer.

They’re much more likely to tell you that ideas ‘just come to them’ or seem to ‘pop into their heads’. And that doesn’t give you anything you can use to duplicate the process.

Fortunately, there are ways of accessing that information. There is a structure to creativity, drawn from careful study of creative thinkers – a highly practical way of becoming more creative.

In this course, you will learn several simple ways to enhance your personal creativity.

Learn practical ways to:

  • Tap into your deepest creative resources
  • Synthesize new ideas and applications from existing ones
  • Use your resources to improve on past solutions
  • Take ideas from other areas and creatively “re-purpose” them

Through a series of simple exercises, you will learn four fundamental processes and begin to make creativity a part of who you are.

Go here to book your place and access the material straight away.

Public Speaking – Presenting Power

Scared of Public Speaking? Master your fear then progress to building powerful presentations with this new training course.

The ability to speak well in front of others is an essential skill in life. Whether you’re giving a wedding speech, making a sales pitch or having a job interview – you need to be your best.

In fact, it’s so important that I developed this course for you based on the 10 years of experience condensed into my Presenting Power book.

presenting_bookMy approach – I believe in putting the power in your hands.

  • The power to shine at social occasions like weddings
  • The power to climb the ladder of promotion
  • The power to show others you’ve got something important to contribute


This course is a practical one, based on all the latest psychology. And the approach is not complicated – it’s intentionally simple, because that always works best.

It’s vital to make the process easier instead.

This course includes::

  • Never forget your words again. Just remember these 2 things
  • 2 simple techniques that will banish your fear – forever
  • How to use past failures to create future success
  • The 3 simple rules for creating a great speech
  • The 7 secrets of effective communication
  • The CMR technique – program yourself for success


How can you possibly make public speaking easier?

The key is this: accuracy. The psychology behind public speaking reveals where to put your effort, so everything becomes easier.


Go here to book your place and access the material straight away.

NLP Language – Meta Model

Struggling to cut to the heart of the problem? You can take control now by asking the right questions.


The meta-model is a way you can identify patterns in language that show you how a person thinks in a fundamental way.

It reveals how they personally see the world – and how they see you and others too. Think about the potential – what could you achieve with that knowledge?

The meta model will show you their assumptions, the limits of their thinking and what they deeply believe is true.

This means you can begin to ask questions which cut right to the heart of the issue – pointed, intelligent and transformative questions.


When you make assumptions, sometimes you will get it wrong. The consequences can be small or they can be serious. Some misunderstandings can end a relationship or cost a business millions. All because you were wrong about what you thought you understood. With these tools, you will strip away misunderstanding and avoid potential disaster.

This level of the meta-model recovers hidden information and combats vagueness.

Limited Thinking

Everyone has gaps in their understanding. With the meta-model, you will find those gaps and see the edges of their worldview. Through a series of simple questions, you can open up their world and help them to do the impossible. The result is transformative and can create a better future for all.

Underlying Beliefs

Everyone has deeply buried ideas about how things are – how the world works, what people are like and what you need to know to make it to the top. At this level of awareness, you will hear the clues in their language and in your own. Here is where you free your mind from the past and open up to a wealth of possibilities in your future. The result is a revolution for the mind.

Take control

With the meta-model, you can slice through bluster and vagueness, eliminate objections and take control of the conversation. You’ll be able to identify faulty thinking patterns and intervene powerfully. You’ll be able to map the thinking patterns of excellence and make them your own.

Learn faster, understand more deeply, ask transformative questions and create breakthrough.

How does it work?

You will learn five patterns each week for the first three weeks as you descend deeper into the model. I demonstrate every pattern with examples across the breadth of normal life, so you can apply the meta-model everywhere. Every situation becomes an opportunity to practice and develop your mastery of these skills. In the fourth and final part, you learn how to combine everything you’ve learned and apply it as a single powerful system.

Whether your needs are in the field of business, coaching, therapeutics, sales, learning or every part of life, the course contains everything you need to make these skills your own. This course is an opportunity to gain an edge – a significant advantage over your competitors in every area of life.

You can enjoy all of this for a single course fee of only £75.

Take control today – sign up here: Meta-Model and access the material straight away.

Goal Mastery

How many areas of your life could benefit from the little-known psychology of success?

Now you can test it for yourself in this 8-week online course. Based on Phil Callaghan’s excellent Goal Mastery book this training explores the practical psychology to achieving success.

goals-ebookUnlike many others, this isn’t a one-size-fits-all course. The first thing we explore is what you want and what success means for you. That’s important because if you let others define success for you, you’re bound to fail – the psychology becomes stacked against you.

This course hinges on the premise that achieving the success you want is something which you can learn to do. The ability to succeed isn’t born into us and need not be based on your background, qualifications or existing skills.

This Goal Mastery course will guide you through a series of ideas and practical exercises designed to show you a different way of being, a clearer way of thinking and a simple means of moving towards the success you want.

You will learn the simple processes that define your goals clearly, lock them in and put you on the road to achieving them. You will also learn the mind traps, pitfalls and faulty ways of thinking which hold people back – or can kill their dreams just short of success.


Go here to book your place and access the material straight away.

Not quite ready yet? Our free Achieving your Goals course will introduce some of the Goal Mastery concepts, so you can test it out for yourself before you enrol in the full course.

Hypnotic Courses

Wonder how you can become more persuasive? Enrol now to begin learning the real skills of compelling communication.

Most people consider Hypnosis to belong to a secret realm – a place of mystery and special power. Somewhere, beyond all the myths, secrecy and stagecraft is a distinct and powerful set of skills for influence and personal transformation.

If you want to:

  • make a difference
  • get an edge
  • turn your life around

our hypnotic courses will help you to achieve that. They’re here for you to study at home, introducing new ideas, adding specialised awareness and improving your skills.

Learning doesn’t need to be a long process and I don’t believe in drawing it out more than you need. That’s why all Mindskills courses are a concentration of knowledge in the same way that diamonds are a concentration of carbon. Tips, tricks and tactics are great, but when they’re all brought together and interconnected, the overall result is worth more than the substance of any one piece.

Hypnosis is a practical ability you can learn to master, starting today, with Mindskills Training’s online hypnosis courses.

For in-depth descriptions, click through the icon for the course you want.

Course Summary
Hypnotic Conversations Part 1 (Fundamentals of Hypnosis) Learn how Hypnosis really works and master the powerful effects of Hypnosis in everyday conversation.
Hypnotic Conversations Part 2 (Hypnotic Language Patterns) Add finesse to your Hypnotic skill by adding selected Hypnotic Language Patterns to your toolkit.
Hypnotic Conversations Part 3 (Advanced Hypnotic Patterns) Master advanced structures in Hypnotic Storytelling and five types of action-at-a-distance Hypnotic suggestions.
Self-Hypnosis Learn how to use Hypnosis as a tool for personal development and self-improvement.
Hypnotic Power Words A primer of Hypnotic Language Patterns suitable for all occasions.
De-Hypnotize Those who rule your mind rule the world. Strip away all of the Hypnotic influences of Authority and Media to de-program yourself thoroughly.

How can you benefit from a command of hypnotic skills?

Here’s the first of the many secrets of hypnosis, and it’s my free gift to you:

All compelling communication contains hypnotic language.

That includes:

  • Great speeches,
  • influential sales pitches,
  • provocative conversations and
  • powerful written declarations

All these contain elements of hypnotic language.

  • Imagine the pleasure of capturing peoples’ attention, without apparent effort, whenever you want to. You need never be ignored or overlooked ever again.
  • The Hypnosis Confidential approach uses only natural language, so you’ll be completely in control of the situation and you will never fear being caught out.
  • Just want to “make friends and influence people”? The skills you will learn are easily applied to groups and social situations, putting you at the centre of every conversation, if that is what you desire.

And a knowledge of hypnotic language can allow you to communicate in a compelling way that is perfectly aligned with your ethics.

You’ll also be protected against the downside: If you don’t know how hypnosis works, you can be influenced whether you like it or not.

For better or for worse, we are hypnotised all the time.

With these skills, you would also be aware of ‘sales hypnosis’ and ‘influence’ in the media – and be able to defend yourself against it.

And these aren’t the only benefits you’ll gain from knowing the insider secrets of hypnosis.


Now book your place here and get started today.

A quick reality check for your 2016 plans – 3 ways to seize control while there’s still time left

"So, Bookface, how are your plans for this year?" "Well, I filled my quota of cat pictures back in January..."Time for a quick reality-check. It’s now over a third of the way through 2016 – have your plans for this year materialised yet, or have you already told yourself “well, maybe next year…”

If that’s you, it’s time to be proactive and to begin designing your future.

Now, Woody Allen wasn’t far wrong when he said “If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans.”

In other words, not all designs work out as planned, so I’ve provided some guidelines that successful people use implicitly and which you can begin to use explicitly.

These are:

While following these systems doesn’t guarantee success, they will definitely show you what is workable and give you ways to get started on your hopes and dreams instead of waiting and hoping.

That’s it. Be proactive – do something definite and do it today…