Personal Resilience – Mind Rescue Kit

Stressed and overwhelmed? This simple course will help you to take back control of your life.

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Mind Rescue Kit is exactly what it sounds like – a practical course that will take you from stressed and overwhelmed to calm, focused and resourceful.

It combines ideas and exercises from Psychology, NLP and Coaching to increase your mental resilience, creating a positive effect for you in your life.

You learn everything you need to know through a series of practical exercises, so you can make a positive difference in your life while you’re still trying it out.

Specifically, you’ll learn:

  • How to take control of your state of mind (and why that’s so important)
  • How to master your internal dialogue (a master-skill)
  • How to make goals like the world’s most successful people do
  • How to recapture your drive and stay motivated
  • What feedback really is – and why you need to get it right

In short, you’ll understand yourself a bit better, so you can get yourself into a more resourceful mindset and have a workable plan for your future.

If that’s what you need, sign up below.

£75 £15 while places last.

Go here to book now

NLP Language – Meta Model

Struggling to cut to the heart of the problem? You can take control now by asking the right questions.

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The meta-model is a way you can identify patterns in language that show you how a person thinks in a fundamental way.

It reveals how they personally see the world – and how they see you and others too. Think about the potential – what could you achieve with that knowledge?

The meta model will show you their assumptions, the limits of their thinking and what they deeply believe is true.

This means you can begin to ask questions which cut right to the heart of the issue – pointed, intelligent and transformative questions.

Assumptions

When you make assumptions, sometimes you will get it wrong. The consequences can be small or they can be serious. Some misunderstandings can end a relationship or cost a business millions. All because you were wrong about what you thought you understood. With these tools, you will strip away misunderstanding and avoid potential disaster.

This level of the meta-model recovers hidden information and combats vagueness.

Limited Thinking

Everyone has gaps in their understanding. With the meta-model, you will find those gaps and see the edges of their worldview. Through a series of simple questions, you can open up their world and help them to do the impossible. The result is transformative and can create a better future for all.

Underlying Beliefs

Everyone has deeply buried ideas about how things are – how the world works, what people are like and what you need to know to make it to the top. At this level of awareness, you will hear the clues in their language and in your own. Here is where you free your mind from the past and open up to a wealth of possibilities in your future. The result is a revolution for the mind.

Take control

With the meta-model, you can slice through bluster and vagueness, eliminate objections and take control of the conversation. You’ll be able to identify faulty thinking patterns and intervene powerfully. You’ll be able to map the thinking patterns of excellence and make them your own.

Learn faster, understand more deeply, ask transformative questions and create breakthrough.

How does it work?

You will learn five patterns each week for the first three weeks as you descend deeper into the model. I demonstrate every pattern with examples across the breadth of normal life, so you can apply the meta-model everywhere. Every situation becomes an opportunity to practice and develop your mastery of these skills. In the fourth and final part, you learn how to combine everything you’ve learned and apply it as a single powerful system.

Whether your needs are in the field of business, coaching, therapeutics, sales, learning or every part of life, the course contains everything you need to make these skills your own. This course is an opportunity to gain an edge – a significant advantage over your competitors in every area of life.

You can enjoy all of this for a single course fee of only £75.

Take control today – sign up here: Meta-Model and access the material straight away.

NLP and High Performance?

Someone recently asked me if the NLP Master Prac course I teach is “high performance”. I thought I’d share my response with you and let you in on a secret in the process.

But first, let’s tackle the “high performance” issue. Forget “high performance”.

To me, the Master prac is about two things – mastery and excellence.

Don’t get me wrong though. I think we can all agree that high performance is good. It’s just that I believe high performance is far from the pinnacle of excellence. I’d better explain what I mean.

High performance is what you get when you refine a process to near maximum efficiency or greatest effect. I agree that’s a worthy goal. So far so good.

However, the top limit on that, the highest performance, is defined by the nature of the process itself.

For example, you can build and fine-tune the best manual typewriter ever so it performs at its highest efficiency. Yet an average word-processor will out-perform even the best typewriter. This is why I’m asking you to focus beyond high performance. It only makes sense.

And high performance is generally about doing the best you can within the existing system. That’s why I focus on mastery. The journey from basic learning to mastery is about moving from learning the rules, to knowing how to bend and break the rules and far beyond – knowing when the rules simply don’t exist.

The most apparent evidence for this is in entrepreneurial behaviour. Top entrepreneurs are rule breakers and rule re-definers. They don’t just break their toys – they create something radically better from the pieces. Something revolutionary.

To me, that is mastery.

Upward Trend

The Master Prac is also about excellence – and excellence is a personal quality. so you must get the learning that you personally need. How?

I’m going to let you in on a secret about our NLP Master Prac that few people are aware of.

The Master Prac syllabus allows us greater flexibility to focus the course on the areas of application that are most important to each of you. Naturally, we do this within the scope of the skills, techniques and awareness-enhancing exercises that make our NLP Master Prac such a high-level training. So participants bring their wish-lists – and finish the course feeling completely satisfied.

We ask participants to bring their NLP wish-lists. What would be on yours?

Would you like to be able to say this afterwards?

“Absolutely awesome! My ‘wish list’ goals were attained within the first 3 days. As the fundamentals of NLP were covered we moved into the mastery of NLP and the group started to create new patterns. I really felt as if I was in a pioneering development group. All of the trainers and assistants are friendly, good-humoured, down-to-earth and highly skilled. This course went way beyond what I expected. Superb value.” – Colin G Smith, NLP Master Practitioner

Go here if you want more proof.

What would you prefer now : high performance or mastery?

There is a further step beyond that level of mastery too. Let me know what you think that is in your comments on this blog.

Successful Learning

When you learn something new, you move through various phases. However, completely new learning seldom happens – we usually build on existing skills to some extent.

When you want to improve something or add to your skill-set, your success depends on a critical phase in the following process.

  1. Unconscious Competence – you can currently do what you can do, near to the level you believe is possible for you.
  2. Unconscious Incompetence – You realise you can do better, but do not know how to increase your performance.
  3. Conscious Incompetence – You are aware exactly where you need to improve but have no strategy for doing that, so you engage in a “trial and error” process.
  4. Conscious Competence – You know where to improve and how to do that, while needing to practice and fine-tune the new model.
  5. Unconscious Competence – You have internalised the new skill, to the extent that you can just do it without much thought. You are at or near the level you now believe is possible for you.

That is what happens when all goes well in a process of self-directed learning.

Critical Point

However, there is a critical phase where this natural learning process can be disrupted, preventing completion.

During the ‘conscious incompetence” phase, there is a process of trial and error. Performance can actually drop at this point, due to self-consciousness and the experimental nature of the “trial and error” process.

A crisis point can come at the greatest difference between expectation and performance – when the person’s experience is most different from their perception of how it could be.

If that difference passes beyond a threshold value (too uncomfortable/painful) the person believes the goal is not achievable and stops the trial and error. They go back to square one.

The sad fact is that they may be incredibly close to success and they will never know it.

“Many of life’s failures are experienced by people who did not
realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”

– Thomas Edison

Avoiding Crisis

Fortunately there are several ways to prevent the crisis threshold being crossed.

Persistence in the face of adversity is one solution – a dogged determination to succeed. This involves consciously raising the ‘discomfort’ threshold. Some people will just “tough it out”.

Approaching learning with a playful attitude is a great way of reducing the self-consciousness of the trial and error phase.

Emotionally letting go of the importance of the outcome without letting go of the desire for the outcome is another way to reduce the impact of trial and error.

A comfortable environment (which includes both people and setting) is another way to encourage this phase beyond the point where crisis was an option.

Our Solution

My preferred solution is to short-circuit the critical phase by removing the need for the “trial and error” stage.

How do you do that?

You train the person in methods, skills, techniques and strategies so they do not need the trial and error. In short, you teach them how to achieve the higher performance and provide convincers that the new approach is a valid one in achieving what they wish to accomplish. Then accelerate learning to the “unconscious competence” phase.

This is why we train people

  • through experience
  • in a light-hearted way
  • in a comfortable, relaxed environment
  • using accelerated learning techniques.

This approach totally bypasses the strain and discomfort of conventional learning. By contrast, learning becomes rapid, comfortable, straightforward and fun.

About trial and error

Sometimes trial and error is a completely redundant process – “reinventing the wheel” so to speak. And sometimes you can end up with a better wheel as a result.

If you want to maximise the effectiveness of the trial and error process, I recommend coaching. Effective coaching is a great way of managing and accelerating the natural process of exploration and discovery.

To summarise:

There are better ways of learning available to you than those you are most familiar with. There are ways to train and coach for success that greatly accelerate the process and are free from the drama and crisis of conventional learning.

Think about the things you want to achieve in your life. What can you now do to achieve those quickly and easily? The choices are yours.

Training or Coaching?

Isn’t it curious how everyday incidents can spark deep insight when you are in the right state of awareness?

For example, I noticed that the outside light on our house was not looking very bright. I decided to take it apart to have a look at what was going on. It’s a fairly simple device – a bulb surrounded by glass, suspended on a bracket.

However, before I had a look inside, I was aware of three possibilities in my mind that would explain the light’s current state:

  1. The bulb needs replacing
  2. The glass needs cleaning
  3. The bulb needs replacing and the glass needs cleaning

As I was taking the lamp apart to explore those options, I though of Tim Gallwey’s Inner Game approach.

You see, when Gallwey was studying the way that people learned sports, he discovered something very important about the way teaching and learning combined.

To read more, go here:

Training or Coaching?