Have you ever had a sense that part of you was stopping you from achieving the things that you want?
Self-sabotage is relatively easy to identify, but few people understand why it happens – or how to stop it.
First: Awareness
You think you’ve identified an instance of self-sabotage. But what are the motivations behind the sabotage?
Second: Questioning
“In what way do I benefit if I don’t achieve this goal?”
“How do I benefit by things staying the way that they are?”
The answers to these questions might not be readily apparent. However, there are answers and when you find them, they are most revealing. You might also decide that you didn’t really want the thing in the first place, but were being driven by social pressure or the wants of others.
Third: Negotiating
Is there a way I can have that benefit and achieve my goal?
All negotiation with yourself must be towards a win/win solution. So find a way that both you and the secret saboteur in your mind can have what you want. Then it will work for you instead.
I don’t think for a moment that this third step will come easily – at first. Let your mind work on it in the background while you focus on other tasks. Before you sleep, set your intention to dream a solution then let it go.
The results may surprise you.
